What we expect from them is necessarily not we do!!!

What do we expect from them is not necessarily what we do?!!!

It's funny, isn't it?

Yes, that's true.

I want to emphasize this part with respect to our kids... The way we were brought up and the day we are now cannot be compared. It stays true for the generations and the generations to come.

What we expect from our children? Generally speaking - Good, Educated, Respected, Well behaved, Obedient, etc... This is again an endless story, which can never be fulfilled by our children's'.

Why? How? All the things are all references which are compared with respect to something else.

Here is why: 

- A Good child need not be Educated;

- An Educated child may not be Respected;

- A Respected child need not be Well Behaved;

- A Well Behaved child need not be necessarily Obedient;

- An Obedient child may not be Good.

The qualifications does not have limitations too.

How Good is our child?

What Education is going to identify them? Engineer, Doctor, Lawyer, Chef, Accountant...

What occupation will fit them so that they will become respectable?

There's nothing wrong in Parent's expectations. Then where do they go wrong?

When they fail to teach their children;

When they fail to respond to their children;

Finally, when they fail to understand what the child expects from them.

The result is the parent's inability in the form of 'Anger' yielding to more and more failures.

If the parent's thought that they are strict by raising their voice against their children and even with force to make the child focus or orient towards the so called good? Then we parents should agree for the following:

1. When a wife does things wrong, husband can scold and slap her?!!!

2. When the husband has not kept the promise, now it's his wife's turn : she makes him to stand out of the home, makes him kneel down and gives nice slaps so that he can realize how important are the promises!!!

3. When we don't reach in time to office, then our manager should yell at us!!!

4. When we are not able to deliver much of the expectations and delivered only XX%, then we will be beaten, pinched and kicked by the boss. And the boss will show more vigorous acts to make us achieve 100%.

5. When we are not able to pay EMI, Loan, Interest we are not only fined but also goofed by Gundas and thrown out in the street.

6. ........ and on.....

What is the solution then? Where should the change come from? Because the root cause of the problem is that we are failing to make our child understand themselves. We are failing to teach love in loving way. We are failing to make them tackle the life as it comes...

Because education, obedience, behaviour etc. will not help them.  A well educated person can be wicked, obedient person can be fool, well behaved person may not have respect and respected person need to be good.

Unless we teach our children the most essential and indispensable 'love'. Love can be shown in various forms to our child.

When we talk from our heart to our child, it's love.

When we explain patiently to our child, it's love.

When we deny the non-essentials in a loving manner, it's love.

When we play with our child, it's love.

When we teach them lovingly without any expectations, it's love.

When we spend our time with them, it's love.

When we help them to identify themselves, it's love.

When we stop feeding our expectations into them, it's indispensable love...

We fear that our child should not fail but don't really worry how they succeed!!!

Unless we don't change our attitude towards our child and keep forcing our expectations in them then "What we expect from them is necessarily not we do!!!"

Sow the love inside them so everyone reaps the love. Our future is watching us unknowingly and recording inside them their future unknowingly...

So let's remember not to seed the darker side of us but enlighten the brighter side so that they can overcome the darkness with light of love... Happy Parenting!!!